Former relationship, glue or break?
Hi, I have this situation, 2 years ago I met a guy, we met up a year and then broke up, and all these 2 years we communicate at least somehow, he is the initiator (although I am against), and at the moment we communicate with him ( I do not mind, I decided to try to communicate, maybe something will come out of this) but he has a girlfriend, I don’t know what to do because our communication is not quite friendly, but he doesn’t stop the relationship with the girl (their relationship is at a distance of 600 km), tell me what to do because it does not hold but does not let go :(
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Answered on October 12, 2015 06:49
Understand first what you want. You can be friends with the former (this is not a phenomenon) until at least one of them again wants something more. Remember how it was before, because of what broke up, who was the initiator of the gap and whose fault. Has something changed or not? If not, imagine that everything is back. Would you like to return THIS? Or not? In short, first decide for yourself whether you want to be friends or no longer just be friends.Then, if necessary, tell him what you think. If you are more to him than just a friend, and he also does not want to part with her, then he just wants to sit on two chairs. Well, I don’t know how you perceive this situation, I would choose the maximum friendship with this person, because you also need to love and respect yourself, and if your person is yours, not someone else’s. If he also rushes between you, make a choice for him - leave him alone. If he really liked you very much, he would have returned. And here it just turns out that he was bored with women's attention, because she left, and you turned up right here and close by. Does it suit you? It happens, of course, that a person loves two, but this, in my opinion, is an unhealthy situation, so if he chooses not you or chooses no one at all, choose “leave him alone” and do not communicate with him. PS: And the relationship at a distance sooner or later, but one hundred percent terminate, if someone does not move to someone closer.