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In raising a child it would be good to be patient. And this patience is not only about “going through the period of childhood”, it is about everyday interaction with the child.
I would rather call this quality a kind of patience -patience-trust.
Patience is the trust that the child will cope with the task that stands before him. Whether it is to climb yourself up on your own feet when you lose your balance, when you are still not so confidently walking around the world, or more difficult - the answer to a question or the solution of an intellectual problem.
This quality is still useful in adolescence ...
And as patience, trust will be useful in choosing a profession and the future direction of your adult child’s life.
Pay attention to whether you are in a hurry to give the correct answer to your child before you hear the answer ?! Do you have the patience to give the child to independently master the process of dining ritual or tying shoelaces?
But after allthrough the path of patience, trust, you can open an independent and strong-willed character in a child.
Yes, and in general, in a hurry to help the child, you can miss the manifestations of the first mental activity of a new person or, worse, suppress its manifestation.
Hyper-Pharmacy is not the highest quality manifestation of love for your child. On the side thatexcessive care and hypereflection help to cope up deprives the future adult person of the skills of self-mastering the newand the pursuit of knowledge.
There have even been experiments in which it was found that when a mother hurries to help in solving various household and other tasks, the child loses interest in this very activity that caring mother interrupted with her care.
For a child, the process is often important, not the result.and to give a ready answer or stop an action means to deprive the whole exciting adventure and the ways of mastering new possibilities.
Crying in response to this behavior is quite an adequate reaction of the baby, in the soft case it will be a barely noticeable disappointment and loss of interest in the activity.
Again! The essence of the game is often not the result, but in the process that the baby builds.
In fact, the consequences of such "help" and hyper-care are much sadder than the banal loss of interest.
With the systematic repetition of such care, the baby, and later an adult, may generally lose interest in any kind of activity.
Imagine when, from time to time, your inspirations and active raids are stopped or crossed by a strong parent figure?
It is possible thatsuch a child will conclude that active achievements do not make senseand the state of emotional frustration (disappointment) after the desire to do something, will become an integral system of life for such a person.
Already in an adult at the level of neural connections, a scheme is formed:
proactive - emotional disappointment(frustration).
As a result, such a person simply stops trying to achieve something. Such people are called lazy.
This is how our hyper-protective love makes the future generation lazy afterwards and it turns out that it’s not at all in “I loved it too much”.